Comments on: Moving forward

By: Dory

Dory — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 15:29:57 +0000

@ Scarecrow – I needed a kleenex for that comment…you made me tear up. Or maybe some of your skittles.

By: SCARECROW

SCARECROW — Fri, 14 Aug 2009 14:10:38 +0000

First….I love you. You came into my life at a difficult time and helped me immensely. I enjoy ‘chatting’ with you via any media. I only wish we were closer logistically so we could get together and meet each others families and so I could get some free dental work.

The second part…how do I deal with insecurities…I don’t know. I am still working on it but those ghosts are everywhere. If you ever saw Beautiful Mind, the story of math guru John Nash, I kinda liken myself to where he was, somewhere between being ruled by my ghosts and acknowledging & coexisting with them. They are part of me and will ultimately have a hand in the person I turn out to be.

That was a little too deep…I need some skittles.

By: justanotherdayinparadise

justanotherdayinparadise — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 20:40:01 +0000

I think that’s why I blog. . .I just typed that without thinking, but by george, I think it might be true. Once it’s out there, I can’t change it, so why worry. In person, I’m a mess. . .It’s so hard to form and maintain close friendships–not just the acquaintence ones. . .

By: klyn

klyn — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 15:21:06 +0000

Gee, I see that woman in the mirror every day! I admire you for what you do and commend your integrity. Kudos for sharing such a heartfelt piece of you.

By: Dory

Dory — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 13:27:17 +0000

Great replies, everyone. Thanks.

@Giggles – Girl… you have nothing to fear here. Just about 2/3 of things I say sound stupid!

By: giggles

giggles — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 04:16:09 +0000

Avoidance…thats it…even on here… I fear people will judge me so I dont say much of anything. What if it sounds stupid? Nobody will answer me back right? Why put yourself out there to get hurt?

By: Kat

Kat — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 02:12:00 +0000

Strangely I think there are more people like you than you realize. I am extremely forceful and full of confidence in my job and with me personal circle of friends (and blog buds) but put me in a room full of people to socialize, I become a wall flower. You’ve come along way baby and you’ll keep getting stronger!

By: Jen

Jen — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 01:43:13 +0000

Avoidance is how I deal with insecurities… I wuss out.

I know what you mean about your confidence professionally – I feel that way too. I am very secure in my nursing skills.

In trying to think of a situation where I am the most insecure and uncomfortable, I would have to say that it is when I am with my office friends who drink alcohol at every social function. I am not much of a drinker and they always make me feel like a buzzkill when I don’t join in. (Kinda like high school peer pressure.) I just opt to not go with them to late lunches on Fridays or evenings out on Saturday nights. I am not a teetotaller or anything like that – I used to drink like a fish in my wild and wooly days… I just don’t LIKE it anymore. I’d much rather have a lemonade, an iced tea, or a strawberry milkshake.

Anyway, I wish I could go with them and feel comfortable NOT drinking.

Thanks for giving me a safe venue to express.

Excellent, thought-provoking post!

By: Tracie

Tracie — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 00:33:36 +0000

I’m like you, shy in new situations and people. There’s always that fear of being judged – for saying something stupid, not wearing the right thing, whatever. I’m sure sometimes I come across as a b#tch, but i’m really just not comfortable. I avoid big social situations because i’ms scared, and I know I miss out on alot!

By: BEK

BEK — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 22:32:36 +0000

You might think of it as God keeping you humble. Though God loves us and provides for us, He also wants us to remember He is the reason for our success and life. God loves you and wants you to feel whole in HIM…When you start feeling those crazy feelings of worthlessness–hold your arms out for a hug from HIM I am huggin’ you right now!!!