Say what you mean and mean what you say
Posted by Dory @ Lucky Dorito on Wednesday, August 27th, 2008
Yesterday was quite a post huh? What’s amazing is not one little iota of that whole possum-wrangling story was embellished! Just the flat out craziness called MY LIFE. My husband loved your comments, by the way! I think his head swelled a little with the use of the word “stud”. He’s a nutbob. 
Today, my thoughts run to the more serious. I’ve sat here looking at this blank screen, cursing flashing…. taunting me to write something for a full ten minutes. I want to share this – but I don’t want it to sound self-serving. This blog is always written in honesty though and these are certainly things that have been on my mind.
I’d love to tell you how Suki and I had a wonderful chance to talk before she left almost 2 weeks ago, but that would be a lie. I’d love to tell you how relieved I was to have the opportunity to just wrap my arms around her and hold her tight for a moment, but that too would be a lie. I’d love to tell you that I felt as if all the years of a slightly strained relationship had been finally laid to rest and that we’d had a wonderful “visit” together before she hit the road…. but sadly, that too would be a lie.
Moving across the country is challenging for anyone… but definitely for a couple of young women without a lot of moving experience. Everything took longer than they’d planned and there was just not time for her to stop by. Her friends’ parents were following them to Florida – to ensure they arrived safely (and then driving back a few days later) so there were several others involved – she couldn’t just decide on her own when she was leaving. I spent most of that day in a sad fog – feeling like I obviously didn’t matter enough for her to make the effort to see me. I realize now that was a selfish knee-jerk reaction on my part – it was definitely due to events out of her control than it was an intentional decision to NOT see us. I knew by the next morning that I was being silly and after a lot of prayer, I made a conscious decision to move on. I had to stop by our cellular service company that day to change her plan to nationwide so that she would be able to make calls (until she manages to get a new plan there – she is still under contract on our plan for another few months) and I added unlimited texting to her plan. I phoned her to tell her – they had just arrived at the new house and were unloading the U-Haul so it was a quick conversation.
Not 15 minutes later, I received a text from her, saying “Thanks”.
Since that day, we’ve exchanged text messages nearly every day. I’ve actually talked to her more frequently then I did before she left. Isn’t it funny how life throws us curve balls? What an unexpected turn of events … and a wonderful blessing!
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Shannonon 27 Aug 2008 at 7:02 am 1I love how God turns what we think is going to be a terrible situation into a blessing and I love being able to see it. God is good!
Yes, He surely is!
Guinieon 27 Aug 2008 at 7:22 am 2He always knows exactly what he’s doing, doesn’t He? ;o)
Thank goodness SOMEONE has a handle on it all, huh?
Stacyon 27 Aug 2008 at 7:27 am 3So many people have said bad things about texting. I know it can be annoying to some, but I love to be able to text. I think it has brought a lot of people closer. This is a great example.
I am so glad that you are able to talk to her, if even by text, so often.
As if you didn’t know that already!
I love to text too!
Beccaon 27 Aug 2008 at 9:28 am 4I love being able to text now, but don’t want to be seen as bugging people by texting first. Glad you are texting, next best thing to talking!
Hugs,
Becca
Well ummm…. someone HAS to text first. I think it’s so unobtrusive – much less so then calling someone. Ya know?
Thotladyon 27 Aug 2008 at 10:14 am 5I find that, if you let it, life usually finds a way to make things work out. I am sure God has a hand too!
Absolutely He does.
megon 27 Aug 2008 at 1:28 pm 6I’m glad you’ve found some peace & balance over the situation; plus I’m doubly glad you all have opened some regular communication
Me too.
Jenon 27 Aug 2008 at 2:17 pm 7Yeah, what Meg said.
LOL
Tracieon 27 Aug 2008 at 3:03 pm 8Tink text me alot too. As annoying as it can be for her phone to be buzzing every 2 seconds, it can be a great way to stay connected. You are such a good mom for realizing that Suki’s day was beyond her control and not just being mad because she didn’t stop by.
Uh. Well…. did you read the part about it taking me a whole day to come to that conclusion?
BBBon 27 Aug 2008 at 3:26 pm 9I’m so glad that this worked out the way it has for you and Suki. I have worked with AmeriCorps kids on a Habitat House in years past and I predict it will be a wonderful, growing experience for her.
Hugs!
Oh that’s wonderful to hear! I know it will be a GREAT learning experience… but it’s nice to hear someone else say it too!
megon 27 Aug 2008 at 5:04 pm 10Yes, please
What my brain managed to translate made me feel a little faint
Done.
megon 27 Aug 2008 at 9:13 pm 11Tell the Awesome-Possum-Wrangler that he is my hero; he explained everything very clearly, so now I know where I stand. Give that man a Klondike Bar from Meg
LOL LOL LOL So glad he helped!
Chrison 27 Aug 2008 at 9:47 pm 12Just like glasses, prayer is the vision correction for the heart. Glad you were able to see what God had planned all along. And if I remember right, you and your husband had a long distance relationship work out pretty well. Maybe it was also part of the training for this time in your lives.
Thanks for sharing this with us, Dory.
Hmmm. Now… that’s interesting Chris. I hadn’t thought of that…. good point.
White Hot Magikon 27 Aug 2008 at 10:25 pm 13You know I had the roughest time with my mom right before I left home. I think all the tension was too much, you know and once it was done with, we were fine. I hope it ends up being true for you two as well. You can’t control other people, you can just put in God’s hand. Great post, honesty is great.
Thanks.