Comments on: things left unsaid

By: SCARECROW

SCARECROW — Mon, 04 Aug 2008 11:01:13 +0000

Confrontation with other people doesn’t bother me as much as confrontation with myself.
S

By: Karina

Karina — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 01:06:30 +0000

I did this a while back myself…it’s pretty cathartic, isn’t it?

Absolutely. Thanks for stopping by!

By: White Hot Magik

White Hot Magik — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 16:23:40 +0000

I wouldn’t say I never confront, but over the years have a better understanding of when to do it. (I hope) Some things no matter how true just will cause a lot of drama, and not necessarily help. So now I try to pray about those things, or maybe I am coping out. I have thought a bunch of those things myself…

By: Shannon

Shannon — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 11:42:53 +0000

Of course- since I join you in wearing the Ms. Non-Confrontational crown there are many, many, many things that I have left unsaid in my life. There are actually many times in my life that I actually have written down those things- usually in a letter to someone who have hurt me- and then after praying about them, throw them away. It is so freeing to give them totally and completely to God, yet it’s so hard to do sometimes. Letting go of them- for good, is such a challenge for me. And once I let go of them, not snatching them back is HARD! Thank you for writing this sweet friend and sharing a piece of your heart with us. Love you!

By: Jean

Jean — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 04:11:32 +0000

I always love comments from you, too.. they’re usually fun, and always thoughtful! This post seriously could have been written by me.. It’s something the Lord is working on with me, too.. I may need to make a list, although I do agree with Becca.. It may only be important that I make it.. not that I actually send it or say it to them.. I’m trying harder to change the dynamic in my relationships now.. they’re the ones that are important to me at this point. And they’re the ones that could actually benefit from my learning. And it seems to be helping some!! I don’t have the desire to be “snarky”, because I get my point out in a good way! It’s actually teaching me a lot! Not as much as it will, of course I still have a long ways to go. Be blessed as you walk yours out, too.
hugs,
Jean

Oh Jean, how sweet… my comments may be fun and thoughtful but here lately, they’ve been one thing only – MISSING! I haven’t been able to visit like I want to but life is going to slow down here soon. I hope.

By: Tracie

Tracie — Wed, 30 Jul 2008 02:07:54 +0000

I have all kinds of conversations with other people in my head! Things I would like to say, but can I come up with one right now…no, brain shutdown. I’m going to be thinking about this one though. Thanks!

You’re welcome! Good luck!

By: Jen

Jen — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 20:05:25 +0000

I could have said the very same things to certain people in my life if I had enough courage at the time. Maybe it is good, sometimes, that we avoid confrontation.
Loved this post.

Thanks. I did too.

By: BEK

BEK — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 19:42:45 +0000

I agree with thotlady; I love seeing your name in my comments. You raise an interesting thought. Sounds like a lot of hurt! Hope this exercise has inspired you and is brining healing.

I pray that you are able to leaves these at the foot of God’s throne and live refreshed! Many hugs!

Aww…. now that just makes me smile! That ANYone would be happy to see MY comments! I guess I should tell ya, the feelings mutual!

By: meg

meg — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 17:49:28 +0000

So many of those could be (& have been) my own statements; I can feel the hurt behind them & pray peace for you, dearest girl.

Thanks Meg … you’re too sweet!

By: Becca

Becca — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 15:58:15 +0000

There is so much emotion in each one of those statements. My question to you is this. Would it be better for you to really have the courage to say those things, or to leave them at the altar of God and truly let them go? Does a merciful God want you to dwell all your life on past hurts, or perceived hurts. I may not be making my point the way that I want to, but dwelling on those things that make up the material of our lives is not all that we are, they are but little threads. The bigger thread that holds your life together is your thread to God, who is all forgiving and healing. Does that make sense?

Hugs,
Becca

Hmmm. Interesting point, Becca…. I’ll have to mull this over a day or two to formulate a response.